Quitting a Job with Confidence and Grace

I never advocate abruptly quitting a job. When you find yourself wanting to quit, ask yourself some questions. Why did you want the job on day one? Why do you want to quit? Are the reasons other people or the work you are doing? 

Let me breakdown ways you need to approach your job and get your control back.  

You amped up your communication skills and worked through any inner office conflict – All offices are crawling with office gossip. Jealousy, comparison, overworked, under worked you name it—people gossip about it. When coworkers aren’t held accountable by your leaders or management, chaos takes over. How can you honestly and openly talk to your gossiping coworkers—don’t engage them. Gossiping coworkers thrive on negative communication. When you have no negativity to give them, they have nothing to take.     

You did some soul searching and re-centered expectations – Many of us accept our roles on day one with high expectations for ourselves and others. We expect to move mountains. That isn’t feasible. When we don’t hit our unreachable benchmarks, having too high of expectations will ruin self-esteem and keep our negative inner voice thriving. Don’t let that kill your joy at work.

You talked openly with your leader about your needs within the office and how to best align with the team strategy –Talking with your leader is my “Top 5” scariest things I have done as a young professional. It was me putting myself out there and being in control of my own world and how I can align my work to best help the department. It was difficult for me to put myself out there to authority in a respectful way, but once I did it, I am never going back to the emotional roller coaster of not being direct.

You communicated and held others accountable for their actions – Holding others accountable for their actions is a daily struggle. I do it. But I hate it. We are all adults. If we say we are going to do something, can’t we trust each other to do it? I wish. Holding someone accountable is part of become a leader and working with a group of people.       

You challenged yourself within your role and reached out for challenging projects – If you are ‘bored’ in your role—have you asked for more challenging work? Do you see gaps in processes that you can help fill? Please don’t tell me ‘that isn’t my job’. If it isn’t your job, you are right in finding a newer, easier job.

You pinpointed your 6 month and 1 year goals – Having goals that you work towards is helpful for any supervisor. If you are stuck on starting any goals, I have a goal setting planner linked for free. I am sharing it because it helped me bust my goals in 6 months.  But, if you are looking to quit, is there anything your leader can do to help you not to quit? Transferring to a new role in a different department might be the perfect fit instead of leaving the company entirely. Just be open and honest.

Do you see a common trend within those six steps outlined above?

Each step starts with YOU.

You are in-control of each step. Once you give over your happiness and control to others, your joy is controlled by someone else.  However, not all office environments can be saved.

After you tackled all of those steps and you have done everything you possibly could, you are ready to quit. Okay—I hear you. If you are planning on leaving or if you get fired unjustly, do NOT go out in a blaze of glory. Do not delete all of the company data (yeah, I saw that happen in real time) or screaming and crying.

Quitting Gracefully….Once you have another job offer in hand

  1. Day of Notification (1st Communication)- Communicate with your direct supervisor as soon as possible. Give a letter of resignation. Stay as generic as possible. It will stay on file in your HR file. This will go a long way in your relationship capital. Discuss with leader how to tell officemates (email, meeting, etc.).
    1. Leader might ask why you are leaving—this can stay generic (save for exit interview)
    2. Leader might counter your leaving package – BE prepared with financial figures if you want to stay
  2. Day of Notification (2nd Communication) – Communicate to any close friends at work, close external volunteers, etc.
  3. 3-5 Days from Notification – Send out communication to team/department notifying of departure and contact in your absence.   

Quitting is never easy. Many times we stay in roles too long that aren’t productive for us. We are lulled into the benefits, the size of the paycheck or fear of leaving. Whatever your reason, take time to reflect on why you want to leave and how your behavior might carry over into your next position.

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