Women in the Office

6 Ways to Celebrate Women in Your Office Everyday

6 Ways to Celebrate Women in Your Office Everyday

International Women’s Day is held on March 8th every year. It’s a day when we celebrate the amazing social, cultural, economic and political achievements of women – while also campaigning for greater progress towards gender equality.

International Women’s Day (IWD) has been celebrated since the early 1900s. Although we’ve made great progress since then, the problem of gender inequality still persists around the world.

Women are also severely underrepresented at senior management and leadership levels. Only 4.2% of Fortune 500 companies had a female CEO in 2016; a number that’s declining instead of improving.

How can you celebrate women everyday in your office?

  1. Attend a women’s event
  2. Invite women to attend a professional development course with you (like a book club)
  3. Donate your time to women’s organizations
  4. Buy from women owned businesses as much as possible
  5. Hire qualified women within your industry
  6. Mentor younger women  

How are you supporting women in your office?

XOXO

Jess

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7 Negotiation Tips That Pay You What You Deserve

Women are almost half of the workforce.

Women are the sole or co-breadwinner in half of American families with children.

Women receive more college and graduate degrees than men.

Yet, on average, women continue to earn considerably less than men. According to the institute for Women’s Policy Research (IWPR), in 2015, female full-time, year-round workers made only 80 cents for every dollar earned by men, a gender wage gap of 20 percent. Continue Reading

5 Signs You are Emotionally Drained by Your Job

Not Loving Your Job? Look to your Energy

Growing up, around the 5th or 6th grade mark, I clearly remember adults asking me what I wanted to be when I ‘grew up’ and my answer was a DJ. This surprised adults because a majority of my family were educators at the time. Many adults would ask ‘Are you going to be a teacher?’ as if planting the seed would spur me to shout ‘Yes!’. So, my answer was always a little perplexing and they never really knew what to say other when ‘why?’. Even as a child, I knew exactly why I didn’t want to be a teacher. I knew the classroom dynamic with 30 unique student needs didn’t make me excited. It drained my happiness and made me anxious. From a young age I even KNEW it didn’t suit my personality.

As I moved along my personal development and growth journey, I realized that I do enjoy teaching people, just not in a traditional classroom setting. I enjoy sharing my knowledge, mentoring one-on-one and motivating people past their fears. If I didn’t push away the traditional teaching path, I would never have found a non-traditional path that both energizes me and inspires me each day.

Where does Your Personal Energy Come From?

Work should be a passionate endeavor that, for the most part, adds joy and fulfillment to your life. It should energize you and give you a sense of purpose and fulfillment. But what happens when it doesn’t? What if you worked really hard to get where you are, do you leave it behind to start new?

For most of you reading this post, work is exhausting and leaves you so depleted that you hardly have time to enjoy the things your income affords you to do.

Even for those of you reading that have jobs that you’ve enjoyed, I bet there are periods when you feel emotionally drained and mentally exhausted that you question why you even do the work you are doing. 

Do your personal values drive your career choices? Check out Career Love’s online course to discover how your values can motivate your career decisions. 

5 Signs You are Emotionally Drained From Your Work:

You Dread Going to Work 

Rather than feeling excited or happy to get up in the morning and begin your work day, you feel a sense of dread or anxiety. The thought of going into work almost makes you physically ill.

This is a huge sign of emotional exhaustion with your job. When you feel completely resistant to even show up at the office, you know that something is wrong.

 

You feel anxious, overwhelmed, or pressured on the job

While you are working, you never feel on top of things. It constantly feels like you’re racing against the clock or some deadline. Or perhaps you feel on edge because of expectations about your performance.

You don’t feel secure or confident that you are pleasing your boss or meeting specified goals.

You might feel overwhelmed because you have more on your plate than you can realistically handle, and you don’t have the support you need. Or you haven’t figured out how to delegate or say “No” to requests for your time.

 

The people around you drain or annoy you

If you don’t surround yourself with people you respect and like, then you are bound to feel exhausted and unhappy. When you feel unappreciated or disrespected, it creates a wave of negative feelings that can impact your work performance and overall feelings about your job.

If your boss is difficult, if you have staff members who don’t pull their weight, or if you deal with clients who treat you badly, then you’re expending emotional energy just trying to deal with these personalities.

 

You’ve lost motivation for your daily duties

When you’re emotionally drained, you find that very little excites you anymore. You just don’t feel much motivation to focus on your projects or tasks, except the negative motivation of being reprimanded or losing your job.

Even activities that you once found enjoyable now feels like a struggle. You have to force yourself to get tasks done, and sometimes you do it so half-heartedly that it doesn’t meet the standards you set for yourself or the expectations of your employer.

Do your personal values drive your career choices? Check out Career Love’s online course to discover how your values can motivate your career decisions. 

 

You stop caring about excellence

If you were one someone who always demanded excellence from yourself and those around you, then then your lack of caring about it is a huge red flag.

You might still get the job done, and maybe others don’t notice the things falling through the cracks, but YOU notice and can feel yourself slipping. You just don’t have the energy to push yourself anymore.

 

How to Align Your Personal Energy to Your Ideal Career

Don’t worry, you are in good hands here at Career Love. You CAN get your mojo back, even if it seems impossible right now. You don’t have to try to do it all alone, or keep going down a disheartening path.  Need motivation right now? Check out the online course to determine your personal values.

It’s time for you to live the life you want and have a career you desire. It’s time to bring happiness back to your life, find a career that deserves you, fills your life with joy, authenticity and truth.

You know, the life that excites you when you wake up each morning. A life that holds meaning and value in the work you do each day. This is the life you are secretly dreaming about, you just need the extra push to get you to reach your ideal career match.

Let’s chat about all this and more. The Career Discovery is a perfect first step, structured program full of motivation, accountability, and support YOU need.

 

Career Love Collective helps women to push their professional fears aside so they can be successful and love their career. We do this by providing one-on-one mentoring tailored to each woman’s specific desired outcome. Wanna chat over a latte or skype? I wanna get to know you, and what makes you…well YOU. Sign up for a free 30 minute assessment and let’s reach your goals together

17 Reasons to Give Your Career a Boost

It’s no secret that the past year has been a transformative time for women–giving power to our voice, taking matters into our own hands and supporting one another.  We must lift up every woman in 2018. You are part of this transformation.

Wondering if you are ready? Of course you are! This is the best time to talk with Career Love Collective about elevating your career, confidence and personal truth. 

17 Reasons to Give Your Career a Boost      

  1. Careers are not linear.
  2. Every woman needs support. That is what Career Love Collective is here for.
  3. Women who get to the top don’t do it alone.
  4. You deserve a career that you love.
  5. Investing in yourself is *never* a waste of time or money.
  6. You spend time defining your priorities.
  7. Resilience is built from your support system.
  8. Nothing can replace connection.
  9. Coaching programs by women, for women.
  10.  Experiment with new career ideas in safe space.  
  11. You deserve to make more money.
  12. You get personalized career advice.
  13. Coaching will take your career to the next level.   
  14. It’s okay to need help, girl–we got you!
  15. Gain real-time feedback on real-life work situations.
  16. Coaching gives accountability for real change.  
  17. Different point of views from outside perspective

Together women can change the world.

You are ready to make moves in your career. Let 2018 be your best year ever.  

Career Love Collective helps women to push their professional fears aside so they can be successful and love their career. We do this by providing one-on-one mentoring tailored to each woman’s specific desired outcome.

Wanna chat over a latte or skype? I wanna get to know you, and what makes you…well YOU. Sign up for a free 30 minute assessment and let’s reach your goals together!

XOXO,

Jess

The Practical Guide to Working with Other Personalities

Working with people we don’t necessarily get along with is a normal part of life in an office.  I once had a coworker tell me, “I don’t have to be everyone’s best friend, I am at work.” another individual at the same company was afraid to voice their opinions for fear of offending anyone.

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How to Enjoy Your Time Away From the Office

Motivation to go to work every day is an important component to our overall happiness. The average work week is for a full time employee is 47 hours per week. With the rise of smartphones, laptop computers and email, our contentedness makes our office anywhere we are in the world.  

For example, now when I go on vacation I actually need to mentally disconnect, plan my work and turn off email to enjoy my vacation. It’s taken me practice to get to this point of disconnection, but it makes me more present and in the moment of my experiences. Early in my career, I would be constantly checking my email, phone notifications and calling the office. I didn’t mentally ‘check-out’ of the office. I was never gone. It was a disservice for me as a human, a spouse and employee to not recharge and experience my time away from work.  

If you are an entrepreneur, self-employed, hourly or in school, any time you are away from work, it means money not in the bank. So, please make sure to enjoy your time off with these tips and make the most of your time experiencing new places. The ability to step away and recharging gives you the motivation to take on new challenges. Stepping away from your business is extra important for this group. I want to stress these tips are for you, too.       

How to Enjoy Your Time Away & Come Back Recharged

Communicate with Your Team

Going on vacation for any amount of time leaves a gap. Your position fills a key need in your team or department. Who will be the point person while you are gone? Even before a vacation is on the books, you need to have a plan in place to address your absence. When I was on a team, I would communicate with my leader of my desire to have a back up plan in place. A back up plan is the most effective way to keep your work moving forward. It can also keep another person in the loop on your ‘day to day’ just in case you are out of the office for an extended period of time. When you do go on vacation, you can meet with your teammate to funnel key messaging to this in-person office contact.

Disconnect from certain accounts / Turn off Notifications

I learned later in my career it is OKAY to disconnect from email. We become to accustomed to certain behaviors in the workplace, we accept it as the norm. When I go on vacation I disconnect from work email accounts and only check email once a day from an offsite computer. I communicated this to my co-workers so they understand my communication isn’t within the minute of sending the email, it would be more like checking at night and they would receive it at work the following morning. I also turn off all notifications and the email counter on my iphone app. I started to do this in my normal ‘everyday life’. It has absolutely helped reduce my anxiety. I highly recommend it!   

Out of Office Reply

I always use out of office replies. Many people I have worked with over the year have varying opinions on out of office replies. I see this as a generational and career choice difference. For example, when working with a lawyer, he saw his role as being at the call of his clients, so he was always reachable—he never had an out of office message. My roles within non-profit or higher education institutions, it was paramount to place an out of office on my email. If an answer needed to happen by end of business day, the out of office message would reply back to the sender, allowing them to go another direction in getting an answer.

It took a negative vacation experience to shake me back to reality. I was on a planned family vacation during the wrap up of a large work project. It was stressful to manage such a large project virtually and enjoy my family time. It was my hubby who helped me come to the realization everyone at the family function was stepping away from their own important work—not just me—and I was constantly using my emails, calls, etc. to show I value work more, while my family was valuing their time together. This experience really stuck with me, so I write this for everyone having challenges with disconnecting. Take my example to heart, and take time to implement these tips to your daily routine to be present in each moment.

Career Love Collective is on a mission to mentor women to overcome workplace challenges to they can be authentic and confident in all stages of life. Wanna chat over a latte or skype? I wanna get to know you, and what makes you…well YOU. Sign up for a free 30 minute assessment and let’s reach your goals together!

XOXO,

Jess

Quitting a Job with Confidence and Grace

I never advocate abruptly quitting a job. When you find yourself wanting to quit, ask yourself some questions. Why did you want the job on day one? Why do you want to quit? Are the reasons other people or the work you are doing? 

Let me breakdown ways you need to approach your job and get your control back.  

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Confident Job Interview Series – Where Do You See Yourself In 5 Years?

You might be just starting a job search, in the middle of a job search or looking occasionally. Whatever your job interview status, I have a tip that will take the guess work out of a big question. This method allows you to be confident, honest and in the moment. No need to bring up the past or feel threatened by what the future might hold.

Picture yourself in a job interview. You prepared extensively on the background of the company and reviewed the job description with a fine toothed comb.  You think to yourself, “I am nailing this interview!”. Then, the looming life question is asked from the interviewer.

“Where do you see yourself in 5 years?”

Ummmm….[mind goes blank]

For some that answer is easy, for others it is daunting.

Great news, you can easily answer this question confidently without telling the hiring manager too much about specifics of the job, past companies or personal life.  However, you do want to make your future intentions clear without scaring the hiring manager.

Use the scenario below to help guide you through your future interview.

Example Scenario

Question: Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

Abby: Current job interview for web designer

Longterm Desire: To be in a leadership position

Goal of Answer: Be honest in your career expectations/growth and align your goals with position

Let’s put it all together….:  “This position at Blue House Design is exciting to me for a few reasons. In five years I hope to be an expert in web design layout. Your reputation with online content is the best in the city. With the strong culture of design work here at Blue House Design, I know I can learn from amazing professionals here at Blue House Design. Also, in the coming years I am very open to leading a team of designers. I have had wonderful mentors, so leading others is something I am very passionate about.”

It’s okay if the job you are applying for isn’t the job of your dreams. If you are always learning and seek out mentors challenging  you to be your best self, you are on a wonderful path for personal and professional growth.

 

Career Love Collective is on a mission to empower all women to be their best self and reach their fullest potential. Wanna chat over a latte or skype? I wanna get to know you, and what makes you…well YOU. Sign up for a free 30 minute assessment and let’s reach your goals together!

XOXO,

Jess

How I Dealt with Frustration at Work and You Can Too!

Frustration at Work – 6 Ways to Move into Happiness

There was a time in my life when I didn’t have a strong sense of self, taking advice from anyone willing to give me some clue as to what I thought I needed. Let me tell you, when you are unsure of your path, there are always those who tell you exactly what you should do. When I would get into conversations about my future plans and my unsteady decisions, they made me feel important. Each one had a plan for me. But why? In their plans for me, they didn’t take into account my interests, strengths, or life goals. I took their advice each time, but each time I was more un-happy than the last decision. How could that be? I was doing the right stuff and doing what others wanted of me.

This lack of a ‘sense of self’ lead to a deep frustration with work and life. All of my frustrations would lead back to what I thought I ‘should’ be doing. I ‘should’ be working at my job 80 hours each week, I ‘should’ like my career choice, I ‘should’ be happy with my benefits and 401k. So many ‘shoulds’, I couldn’t enjoy my life in the moment or in the future. I was too caught up in what should be happening, that when my expectations weren’t met—my frustration would take over.

Learn more about discovering your passion and purpose in the new online course from Career Love Collective

Let’s step back for a moment. How did I get from work frustration to a lack of sense of self?

When I shed all my “should” moments and expectations, I enjoyed life so much more. My frustrations subsided, I enjoyed my work for what it was and I was able to focus my energy on work and not emotional drama.

How to know when your Expectations are leading to Frustration:

  1. Expecting People to Always Agree with You

People are never going to agree with you, or me. Ugh, why can’t we just all get along! I am working on sharing my opinions with those who disagree, but it’s difficult. I have to do a lot of prep to feel comfortable to share a project idea at work to feel comfortable in a dissenting voice.

  1. Respect you More than you Respect Yourself

No one will EVER respect you more than YOU. You are your biggest fan. I learned that this summer traveling to Europe, body size is only a number. I practice selflove by truly loving my body, learning new things and embracing my ideas.

  1. Expecting others to (need) and Like You

Okay, listen up. It doesn’t matter our age, we all battle with wanting to be liked. However, it is so freeing to let yourself be unburdened of that inner teenager to be liked. Like yourself—it’s so much better.

  1. Expecting Others to fit your idea of who they are

Ouch, this one stings. Don’t we all have an “idea” of someone or something and then reality smacks us in the face. Being honest with your fears helps to be clear with all true ideas.

  1. Assume they know what you are thinking

We aren’t all mind readers like Sylvia Brown. If I am having an issue, I need to communicate my issue with the team. Also, on the opposite spectrum, I can’t assume they know all the lingo and jargon to the conversation. Just keep communication simple!

  1. People will suddenly change

Do you remember summer break, and when we would go back in the Fall there would be a HUGE transformation for your first day of High School? Yeah, that never happens. We don’t suddenly change our decision making or habits. WARNING: If a decision is changed quickly, watch out for fall out.

Learn more about discovering your passion and purpose in the new online course from Career Love Collective

Work can be a frustrating place fraught with gossip, drama and leadership changes. Be true and honest with yourself, for frustrations to be worked through openly. There are people in your life who want the absolute best for you, like me. I want you to be your best self. No more hating getting to work in the morning. You are unchallenged, unmotivated, unfulfilled. It’s okay, I can help you find your joy again with the “Confident You” program. We work together to custom fit a plan just for you. It’s not cookie cutter. It’s all yours. So, it’s your turn to say YES and be surrounded by positivity. You need to stay close to these positive individuals. They are genuine, authentic and have no hidden motive to your future plans. Confide in these individuals for growth.

Career Love Collective is on a mission to mentor women to overcome workplace challenges to they can be authentic and confident in all stages of life. Wanna chat over a latte or skype? I wanna get to know you, and what makes you…well YOU. Sign up for a free 30 minute assessment and let’s reach your goals together!

XOXO,

Jess

P.S.Learn more about discovering your passion and purpose in the new online course from Career Love Collective!

Culture Fit 101 – What to Look for During the Job Search

Dear Jess,

I am starting a stealth job search and could use some advice.

The company I work for isn’t a good fit for me–I realize this now. It’s never been  the right match.

It’s always felt like I was trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. I thought I was coming to a great company, well liked in the community with a great reputation. Instead I stepped into a negative place where my ideas constantly get turned down, it’s gotten to the point I have stopped giving my suggestions. I go to work, “punch in” do my work and go home. I am not happy, but I don’t want to step into the same culture again.

Thank you!

Steph

 

Dear Steph,

Thank you for your note. I am so sorry to hear your company doesn’t value your input. Your superiors are too involved in their own challenges—perhaps owners, shareholders, board members, etc.—to miss the fact you are miserable. Your supervisor has the influence to keep you in the company or send you running. They aren’t keeping you engaged and challenged. It’s time for you to thrive somewhere else.

As you mentioned in your note, one of the major reasons you accepted the job is the reputation of the company. So, you are wondering how you got “duped” by these negative nay sayers in a culture mis-match!

Seven Tips for Job Seekers Craving Culture Fit  

  1. Job Posting – Some position postings are very straight forward in the basic requirements and duties. Other positions descriptions read as if two or three different jobs are within the same title. This type of job is lovingly referred to as a “Franken-job”. If the position seems impossible to accomplish, trust your gut. These positions pull from other overworked co-workers to create an odd position that has no direction.
  2. Organization Size – If you have experience working in large, mid-size or non-profit organizations, write down your likes and dislikes of each size organization. Do you work best in a non-profit setting with more autonomy or is a corporate hierarchy your perfect scenario? As you narrow down these organizational characteristics, it will help in the long term to know your ideal work space.
  3. Interview Process – Applying for a new position as an external candidate is a process for most, having to send a cover letter, resume, CV, college transcripts and other documentation. Just the application alone is cumbersome. If you find yourself in limbo for months, the company might be having larger internal battles. Just say thanks, but no thanks.
  4. Mission/Vision/Values – Does the organization proudly display their Mission/Vision/Values in their communication pieces, website, etc. and is it easy to understand? Mission statements shouldn’t be overly diluted or grandiose. If the company appears to be working towards a larger common goal, they are a keeper! Many organizations now encourage employees to be “passion fueled” to align with the company mission such as fitness, outdoors, health food, etc. this can also help narrow down your interest level with the company.
  5. Coworkers – Do coworkers smile at each other in the office, is there a general feeling of mutual respect as you are waiting in the lobby or conversing in the interview? It’s difficult to put your nerves out of the picture during an in-person interview, but try to keep your emotions in check when meeting your future co-workers for the first time. Are they excited and on time to meet you or are they scattered, late and confused during the interview? Paying attention to social cues, you will know if it is the right environment for you.
  6. Support – Flextime and the ability to work from home one or more days a week are among the most highly sought after benefit of the workforce. Before the interview, you might have access to the benefits guidelines on the company website to check flexible scheduling policies. Companies giving their employees the ability to work from home or have flexible hours, demonstrates trust and faith in workers and a culture that expects the best from employees.
  7. Trust- Trust comes from open communication. Do you feel like you can be open and honest with your current boss/leader? Career Love Collective has taken feedback from women all around the world to create our program plans. If you find yourself in a job you love, but leadership is overloaded and you are fed up–don’t leave. Just talk with us and we will help you put together a plan in an unbiased way. Contact us for a free 30 minute assessment.

Steph—good luck on your job search. You will find a new workplace that values your creative light. Take your time and don’t rush—you won’t be disappointed. Open floor plans, fancy coffee shops, jeans on Friday, full fitness centers, 401(k) benefits—all of these perks are amazing to anyone initially joining a company but there is more to a company than meets the eye.

Do you have a career related question? Contact me to be featured on “Ask Jess” or to get your own 30 minute assessment.

XOXOXO,

Jess