Quitting a Job with Confidence and Grace

I never advocate abruptly quitting a job. When you find yourself wanting to quit, ask yourself some questions. Why did you want the job on day one? Why do you want to quit? Are the reasons other people or the work you are doing? 

Let me breakdown ways you need to approach your job and get your control back.  

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Confident Job Interview Series – Where Do You See Yourself In 5 Years?

You might be just starting a job search, in the middle of a job search or looking occasionally. Whatever your job interview status, I have a tip that will take the guess work out of a big question. This method allows you to be confident, honest and in the moment. No need to bring up the past or feel threatened by what the future might hold.  

Picture yourself in a job interview. You prepared extensively on the background of the company and reviewed the job description with a fine toothed comb.  You think to yourself, “I am nailing this interview!”. Then, the looming life question is asked from the interviewer.

“Where do you see yourself in 5 years?”

Ummmm….[mind goes blank]

For some that answer is easy, for others it is daunting.

Great news, you can easily answer this question confidently without telling the hiring manager too much about specifics of the job, past companies or personal life.  However, you do want to make your future intentions clear without scaring the hiring manager.

Use the scenario below to help guide you through your future interview.

Example Scenario

Question: Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

Abby: Current job interview for web designer

Longterm Desire: To be in a leadership position

Goal of Answer: Be honest in your career expectations/growth and align your goals with position

Let’s put it all together….:  “This position at Blue House Design is exciting to me for a few reasons. In five years I hope to be an expert in web design layout. Your reputation with online content is the best in the city. With the strong culture of design work here at Blue House Design, I know I can learn from amazing professionals here at Blue House Design. Also, in the coming years I am very open to leading a team of designers. I have had wonderful mentors, so leading others is something I am very passionate about.”

It’s okay if the job you are applying for isn’t the job of your dreams. If you are always learning and seek out mentors challenging  you to be your best self, you are on a wonderful path for personal and professional growth.

 

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XOXO,

Jess

  

 

Networking, Networking, Networking…..is for EVERYONE!

Career (Professional) Networking is for EVERYONE!

Career networking should be part of everyday life in personal and professional settings. While many might not be comfortable striking up a conversation with a stranger or going to a new place alone, having a personal network is always something that should be in place. You will never know when or where you will need it. Constantly working towards a large network will help you in a job search and moving along the career ladder.      

What is Career Networking?

Career Networking or professional networking is keeping personal, professional or academic contacts to assist with a job search, achieve career goals, learn more about your field or learn about another career field. Networking is a great way to hear about new opportunities and get “in” with the organization you would like to work with.

Networking can help you get hired!

  • 70% of people in 2016 were hired at a company they had a connection
  • 80% of professionals consider professional networking to be important to career success

Linkedin report based upon users

Top Networking Tips

  1. Attend In-person Events– I understand the need for social media–I use it everyday. This is not an anti-social media post. However, face to face networking needs to be part of a larger strategy. Since there are a limited amount of hours in a day, make sure you are being critical to the clubs you are devoting your time.  
  2. Keep in touch with your network– I like to follow up with my network and send notes to people when they get promotions or new jobs. Keeping relationships positive takes work, but it is worth the time.
  3. Reciprocity—Do you know a hiring manager for a position and is a friend a perfect fit? Recommend them to the hiring manager! What can YOU do for your network?  
  4. Don’t limit your network– Some people might think “I am an IT manager, so I can only know other IT Managers to be the best IT manager.” FALSE! I was in this trap too. Meet others in any career track–not just your own.  Talk to everyone, listen to everyone. You will learn more about yourself by opening your mind and your network.
  5. Do your Homework–When you go into a networking event, sometimes there are 1,000 people at a single event with a 45 minute “mingle” timeframe. You will not meet everyone–so make sure you are prepared. Sometimes guest lists are online, giving a sneak peek of attendees. It will give you time to craft your list of “must meets”. Do you have a friend who works at a company of your “must meets”, ask them beforehand for an introduction–it is better than a cold handshake!
  6. Don’t ask for anything in return–Networking isn’t quid pro quo. Don’t even think of asking for a favor in the first meeting. If you have something to offer, make sure you CAN offer it and have the ability to follow through. It will go a long way in the relationship.
  7. Aim High–This is a personal tip I use, it parallels the saying “What do I have to lose?”. Do you want to meet the CEO of a company, go for it–thank them for doing a speech you recently heard or an article you read about the company (if positive). I always like to thank a speaker for their time at luncheons or breakfasts, you get to meet the CEO while everyone is sitting in their car in traffic. It builds confidence and doesn’t take too much effort.
  8. Bring a PIC (Partner in Crime)–If you are new to networking, bring a PIC (partner in crime). I had a wonderful networking buddy in my early days. She took me under her wing and gave me the “do’s and dont’s” of networking. It helped me until I was ready to go out on my own.     

I am very proud of having a wonderful and robust network. It has helped me in my professional career and my personal life as well. At Career Love, I take away the mystery of personal branding and get you comfortable starting a vast network that will suit you well in your life and career.  People in my exclusive personal brand re-vamp course master the “how to’s” of getting yourself noticed and out into the community.  You are ready to take your career to the next level.

Many of my connections have helped me with personal needs like finding a personal finance adviser, automotive shop for my car, a veterinarian for my car, all the vendors for my wedding and previous jobs before postings were made public! A network can be a trustworthy source for you and your family now and in the future.  

XOXO,

Jess

 

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#careerloveco Summer Reading List

When I have time to read, it’s not the romance novels calling my name—it’s non-fiction business and leadership, DUH!

With summer finally here in for many of us, reading is a wonderful companion for the following activities–travel layovers, weekends by the lake/beach, or perhaps a long afternoon in the shade.

Wherever you are and whichever your preference, below is a list of my personal top 5 books for your summer reading.

Please note, these are my personal book recommendations. I chose each book carefully as an opportunity for you to reflect on your daily habits and attitudes towards work and life. Each summary is a brief description provided by the author or publisher and an amazon link.

What are your must reads this summer?

XOXO,

Jess

 

  1. “Rising Strong” Brene Brown

Social scientist Brené Brown has ignited a global conversation on courage, vulnerability, shame, and worthiness. Her pioneering work uncovered a profound truth: Vulnerability—the willingness to show up and be seen with no guarantee of outcome—is the only path to more love, belonging, creativity, and joy. But living a brave life is not always easy: We are, inevitably, going to stumble and fall.

It is the rise from falling that Brown takes as her subject in Rising Strong. As a grounded theory researcher, Brown has listened as a range of people—from leaders in Fortune 500 companies and the military to artists, couples in long-term relationships, teachers, and parents—shared their stories of being brave, falling, and getting back up. She asked herself, What do these people with strong and loving relationships, leaders nurturing creativity, artists pushing innovation, and clergy walking with people through faith and mystery have in common? The answer was clear: They recognize the power of emotion and they’re not afraid to lean in to discomfort.

Walking into our stories of hurt can feel dangerous. But the process of regaining our footing in the midst of struggle is where our courage is tested and our values are forged. Our stories of struggle can be big ones, like the loss of a job or the end of a relationship, or smaller ones, like a conflict with a friend or colleague. Regardless of magnitude or circumstance, the rising strong process is the same: We reckon with our emotions and get curious about what we’re feeling; we rumble with our stories until we get to a place of truth; and we live this process, every day, until it becomes a practice and creates nothing short of a revolution in our lives. Rising strong after a fall is how we cultivate wholeheartedness. It’s the process, Brown writes, that teaches us the most about who we are.

 

  1. “Presense” Amy Cuddy

Have you ever left a nerve-racking challenge and immediately wished for a do over? Maybe after a job interview, a performance, or a difficult conversation? The very moments that require us to be genuine and commanding can instead cause us to feel phony and powerless. Too often we approach our lives’ biggest hurdles with dread, execute them with anxiety, and leave them with regret.

By accessing our personal power, we can achieve “presence,” the state in which we stop worrying about the impression we’re making on others and instead adjust the impression we’ve been making on ourselves. As Harvard professor Amy Cuddy’s revolutionary book reveals, we don’t need to embark on a grand spiritual quest or complete an inner transformation to harness the power of presence. Instead, we need to nudge ourselves, moment by moment, by tweaking our body language, behavior, and mind-set in our day-to-day lives.

Amy Cuddy has galvanized tens of millions of viewers around the world with her TED talk about “power poses.” Now she presents the enthralling science underlying these and many other fascinating body-mind effects, and teaches us how to use simple techniques to liberate ourselves from fear in high-pressure moments, perform at our best, and connect with and empower others to do the same.

Brilliantly researched, impassioned, and accessible, Presence is filled with stories of individuals who learned how to flourish during the stressful moments that once terrified them. Every reader will learn how to approach their biggest challenges with confidence instead of dread, and to leave them with satisfaction instead of regret.

 

  1. “Developing the Leader Within You” John Maxwell

Developing the Leader Within You is Dr. Maxwell’s first and most enduring leadership book, having sold more than one million copies. In this Christian Leaders Series edition of this Maxwell classic, you will discover the biblical foundation for leadership that John Maxwell has used as a pastor and business leader for more than forty years. These same principles and practices are available for everyday leaders in every walk of life. It is a lofty calling to lead a group―a family, a church, a nonprofi t, a business―and the timeless principles in this book will bring positive change in your life and in the lives of those around you.

You will learn:

The True Definition of Leader. “Leadership is influence. That’s it. Nothing more; nothing less.”

The Traits of Leadership. “Leadership is not an exclusive club for those who were ‘born with it.’ The traits that are the raw materials of leadership can be acquired. Link them up with desire, and nothing can keep you from becoming a leader.”

The Difference Between Management and Leadership. “Making sure the work is done by others is the accomplishment of a manager. Inspiring others to do better work is the accomplishment of a leader.”

God has called every believer to influence others, to be salt and light. Developing the Leader Within You will equip you to improve your leadership and inspire others.

 

  1. “Extreme You” Sarah Robb O’Hagan

As a child, Sarah Robb O’Hagan dreamed she could be a champion. Her early efforts failed to reveal a natural superstar, but she refused to settle for average. Through dramatic successes and epic fails, she studied how extraordinary people in sports, entertainment and business set and achieve extremely personal goals. Sarah became an executive at Virgin Atlantic and Nike, and despite being fired twice in her twenties, she went on to become the global president of Gatorade and of Equinox—as well as a wife, mother, and endurance athlete.

In every challenging situation, personal or professional, individuals face the pressure to play it safe and conform to the accepted norms. But doing so comes with heavy costs: passions stifled, talents ignored, and opportunities squelched. The bolder choice is to embrace what Sarah calls Extreme You: to confidently bring all that is distinctive and relevant about yourself to everything you do.

Inspiring, surprising, and practical, Extreme You is her training program for becoming the best version of yourself.

 

  1. “The Highly Sensitive Person” Elaine N. Aron

Are you a highly sensitive person?

Do you have a keen imagination and vivid dreams?  Is time alone each day as essential to you as food and water?  Are you “too shy” or “too sensitive” according to others?  Do noise and confusion quickly overwhelm you?  If your answers are yes, you may be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).

Most of us feel overstimulated every once in a while, but for the Highly Sensitive Person, it’s a way of life.  In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Elaine Aron, a psychotherapist, workshop leader and highly sensitive person herself, shows you how to identify this trait in yourself and make the most of it in everyday situations.  Drawing on her many years of research and hundreds of interviews, she shows how you can better understand yourself and your trait to create a fuller, richer life.

In The Highly Sensitive Person, you will discover:
Self-assessment tests to help you identify your particular sensitivities
* Ways to reframe your past experiences in a positive light and gain greater self-esteem in the process
Insight into how high sensitivity affects both work and personal relationships
Tips on how to deal with overarousal
* Information on medications and when to seek help
Techniques to enrich the soul and spirit