5 Traits Every #Bosslady Should Have in Her Support System

What does your support system look like right now?

Throughout life, my family moved every few years for my dad’s job. As a kid, let’s face it—it sucked. I moved from my friends, my teachers and my go-to playgrounds on a regular basis.

As I grew up, making friends was more of a difficult venture. I couldn’t just throw myself into a game and expect friends out of the deal. Middle school is rough, especially middle school girls. Somehow, I made it through.

Then came the move during mid-year Sophomore year of High School. I don’t wish that move on anyone. But, my thought was, “I am going to College in two years”, I might as well make some new friends.

Why am I telling you my sorted details of middle and high-school Jessica? In this time of change and growth, I don’t have a base of core friends from those formative years. Many of my close friends are former co-workers or mentors who provide me support and friendship!

Think about your support system—who are they and what do they provide you?


  1. One or two active listeners in the Group
    • Great support systems should have one or two people who are fully engaged in your conversation and give you counsel. Not just after work Happy Hour/one sided/what you want to hear advice or blow off your situation to talk about their problems.
    1. Allow you to fail and talk through the decision.
    • I know—I used the “f” word. You should be comfortable when talking to your mentor or friends that they will give you options of choices. But guess what– you are actually the person making the decision. If your friend or Mentor can’t handle that, they aren’t good for your growth!
    1. Talk on the phone or have lunch
    • Texting and email are amazing tools for communication, however, nothing replicates a conversation over the phone to de-brief a tricky situation or lunch to take time to cool down and talk. A “walk and talk” is also one of my favorite things to do with friends after a long day.
    1. Follow back up with you
    • Do you feel like you talk with friends about life or work situations and then never talk about them again? EEEKKK. It’s okay to bring up a conversation again. It helps you to de-debrief, but beware of negative re-hashing. Always keep it positive.
    1. Keep it positive
    • No one has time for negativity. If you have a supportive friend who is asking you the “Why?”, they are a keeper. Don’t get sucked into drama at work or in family. It will only lead you down a long unpaved rocky road. Take the high road and don’t engage.

Are you missing any of the five areas? Are you overloaded on a few? Let me know in the comments.

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